Walking out onto the pitch…

I confess to emotions of pride and joy as the Tonbridge Angels captain, Jerrome Sobers (all 6’ 4” of him), walked out onto the pitch with my boys at the cup game against Bromley.

He did wonder aloud to me beforehand how he was going to stoop down and hold Amos’ two year old hand.

I watched the filming of it a few days later and noticed that as they walked on to the pitch the referee and his assistants strode ahead with the Bromley captain and team keeping with them, pace for pace. Then, all of a sudden, they stopped and waited for Tonbridge Angels to catch up with them! We were miles behind (unlike in the game where we matched them man for man) because Amos’ little legs struggled to keep up and Jerrome had slowed down to his pace.

At Christmas Christians celebrate the fact that God accommodated himself to our pace. God held humanity’s hand, as it were, and became like us through his son Jesus so that we could understand a little more clearly who God is and what God is like.

Let’s be honest, there are many troubling and distasteful passages in the Bible. Sadly, I think they are often taken out of context and sequence. For me, the Bible is a gradual revealing of God to humanity. The flashy theological phrase for this is “progressive revelation”. It’s the idea that God comes closer to us as the Bible story unfolds. Interestingly, the closer God comes to us and the more humanity understands God the less violent the Bible becomes… It seems that as humanity understands God we begin to understand that we have a God of love, peace and justice, but not revenge (that is massively different to justice).

And this closeness comes to its culmination in the person of Jesus. When Jesus is in his thirties one of his disciples and best mates, Philip, asks him to show them God the Father as that will be enough to satisfy them. Jesus says: “Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.” (John 14:9)

If we want to know what God is like we should look first and foremost at the Jesus of the gospels. There we find the Son of God who is on the side of the poor and oppressed, hates religious obstacles, elevates women, welcomes the outcast, breaks down racial barriers and places children at the centre of God’s kingdom.

I’m so glad God slowed down to our pace and accommodated himself to our level of understanding aren’t you?

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

The story of wabi-sabi.

I read this a few months ago in “Leadership Journal” and haven’t been able to shake it…

According to Japanese legend, a young man named Sen no RikyD sought to learn the elaborate set of customs known as the “Way of Tea”.

He went to tea master Takeno JDD, who tested the younger man by asking him to tend the garden.

RikyD cleaned up debris and raked the ground until it was perfect, and the garden immaculate. Before presenting his work to the master, he shook a cherry tree, causing a few flowers to fall onto the ground.

To this day, the Japanese revere RickyD as one who understood to his very core wabi-sabi. Emerging in the fifteenth century as a reaction to the prevailing aesthetic of lavishness, ornamentation, and rich materials, wabi-sabi is the art of finding beauty in imperfection and profundity in earthiness, or revering authenticity above all.

When a white pottery bowl breaks, for example, one might glue it back together with white lacquer to disguise the breaks, making it look as new and complete as possible. But in the East the bowl might be glued back together with lacquer sprinkled with gold to highlight the cracks and imperfections.

Japanese culture sees the aesthetic value of imperfection in wabi-sabi just as much as the Greeks valued perfection in their art. Wabi-sabi is seen as beautiful because it is imperfect and broken. The gospel is like spiritual wabi-sabi. It is the story of how God redeems imperfect, broken people and uses them to bless and fractured world.

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

Random acts of kindness…

Sometimes we all come across stories that warm the soul. Here’s one that grabbed me a few weeks back:

New York City can be a tough place to live. According to the latest figures, the city boasts a homeless population of 64,000, while 7.8 per cent of the city’s 8.3 million population are unemployed. In 2012, the Big Apple came top of a poll conducted by “Travel & Leisure” magazine to find America’s least friendly city. If you’re down on your luck, it can be an unforgiving place.

So when a local resident takes on the role of good samaritan, the whole world takes notice.

Mark Bustos is a hair stylist at one of the city’s high-end salons. For the past two years, the 30-year old has spent his weekends walking around New York’s less salubrious neighbourhoods offering free haircuts to homeless men.
He approaches each person with the same phrase: “I’d like to do something nice for you today,” and posts the results on his Instagram page, which has attracted over 100,000 followers, using the hashtag #BeAwesomeToSomebody.

The idea came to Bustos after he visited family members in the Philippines in May 2012. During the trip, he borrowed a chair from a local barber and offered free haircuts to impoverished children. “The feeling was so rewarding, I decided to bring the positive energy back to NYC,” Bustos told the Huffington Post.

Bustos said he always makes sure he cuts people’s hair in very visible public spaces, in the hope that others will be inspired by his act of selflessness.

He hopes, too, that his homeless clients will feel inspired to turn their lives around, boosted by the extra confidence a haircut can bring. Bustos recalled one particularly memorable customer:

“After offering him a haircut and whatever food he wanted to eat, he didn’t have much to say throughout the whole process, until after I showed him what he looked like when I was done … The first thing he said to me was, ‘Do you know anyone that’s hiring?'”


Bustos’ girlfriend goes out with him and she gets them the food whilst he cuts their hair.

Does this story put a smile on your face? It does on mine and I’m sure it does on God’s.

When Jesus roamed the earth it seems that’s exactly what he did for most of his three years of ministry until he turned his face towards Jerusalem and his crucifixion. He roamed, he meandered… There didn’t seem to be any “five-point plan” or “three year strategy”. He wandered around speaking and doing random (often amazing!) acts of kindness.

Also, although Jesus asked the disciples whom they thought he was and rated knowledge highly, he seemed more interested in theirs and our actions. Why? Maybe they showed what we truly believed; which values ticked within us; whom we were following.

Personally, I find busyness can get in the way of random acts of kindness and I want to carve out some “vacant” time where I can be prompted by the situation before me to act kindly instead of needing to rush on to next important engagement.

How about you?

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

How to speak so that people will listen.

A friend pointed me in the direction of an excellent TED talk (link below) by Julian Treasure. It is entitled: “How to speak so that people will listen.”

The following jumped out at me as I watched it:

The seven deadly sins of speaking:
1. Gossip.
2. Judging.
3. Negativity.
4. Complaining.
5. Excuses.
6. Lying.
7. Dogmatism.

I broke most of these in a conversation with Charlie, our other minister, just before watching this! And what did I achieve? Maybe dragged someone else down in order to elevate myself. I don’t know about you but I really struggle to hang around people who display these characteristics. They are the people who make my heart sink when I see them coming towards me. Imagine if we all decided to ban these from our mouths…

What you say:
1. Honesty: Aim to be clear and straight with people (this will be couched in love).
2. Authenticity: Be yourself.
3. Integrity: Be your word. If you say it then follow through and do it.
4. Love: Wish the other person well.

This should HAIL (see what he did there!?) from us.

Maybe I’m being too simplistic but here’s what I see.
o In the context of Jesus’ life on earth I see the religious leaders, who were always on the back of this rebellious troublemaker – as they saw Jesus – displaying the seven deadly sins often, in their desire to silent.
o In Jesus I see what we should say – He was honest, authentic, filled with integrity and drenched in love.

I know what I sometimes am and what I desire to always be. How about you?

It is well worth 9 minutes 58 seconds of your time!


Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

Clowns for the kingdom?

I was a bit of a clown at school and received the nicknames “ferret” and “sparrow” for my efforts. I was further rewarded at Spurgeons’ College where I was given the title “Baldrick” – I had long hair then which I didn’t wash that often…

Circus clowns captivated me as a child. They weren’t what we went to see; we went for the high-wire act, the lions and men with flashing swords. But the clowns often stole the show.

The novel It, by Stephen King, has ruined clowns for many of us. Who can forget its burning eyes as a child’s ankle is grabbed from the darkness of the sewers? There are other clowns that we just feel plain sorry for, like the lady in La Strada (The Road), a beautiful Italian film by Frederico Fellini, made in 1954, which still holds it own to this day.

Clowns exist in all cultures and traditionally there are three types:
1. Pierrot: He is a white-faced clown who is immaculately dressed with finely defined make-up. This clown is in charge.
2. Auguste: They are big sloppy-clothed clowns. They’re the ones who lose their trousers when their braces break.
3. The down-at-heel tramp: Charlie Chaplin encapsulates this type of clown.

I was called a Chaplin recently by the ex-Tonbridge Angels F.C. captain, Gary Elphick, in an article he wrote for the Courier. It is spelt Chaplain – but how was he to know (it’s derived from “chapel” which was originally applied to the shrine built to preserve the cloak of St Martin of Tours as a holy relic)?! And before you are tempted to paint a stereo-type: “All footballers lack brains”, Gary is an educated, polite and approachable man (he’s also huge – so that last sentence covers my back in case he ever reads this!). Also, I was interviewed by some Tonbridge School boys after a match and they spelt it the same way!

However you spell it, I have taken this idea of a Chaplain being a ‘right Charlie’ into my role at Tonbridge Angels. It has also spread into the rest of my work. I am quite happy to be known as a clown.

In the book Footballing lives as seen by chaplains in the beautiful game we read: “Clowns, like chaplains, are not contributors to the national output, but they are commentators on life.” Church Ministers can be tempted to grab so much power and reputation. In fact, so can churches within their communities and in the world at large. We assume the world is interested in answers we have to questions they might not be asking (ok, maybe an exaggeration to make a point – but it has a ring of truth to it).

Jesus seemed content to be a commentator on life until he transformed it on the cross (a Charlie Chaplin-like action at the time of a failed leader?). In Clowns, storytellers, disciples Olive M. Fleming Drane writes: “The supreme model for the Christian clown is Jesus, and our clowning must bear witness to him. Putting it in the simplest terms, the Christian clown will step in and receive the custard pie in her own face, rather than throw the custard pie at someone else.” Interestingly, Jesus was not tempted to prove himself with the powers that be. He didn’t really defend himself before the Roman Procurator Pilate, King Herod or the High Priest Caiaphas.

Do we see Jesus as a clown? For sure, as Christians we believe he is King, Lord, Shepherd, Friend and so much more beside. But do we have room for Jesus as a clown. Let’s remember that many of his stories, his parables were jokes, the absurdity of which made profoundly eternal points. If we’re not careful we could find we’ve “stain-glass-windowed” them so that they fit our view of who Jesus should be.

Frederick Buechner, one of my favourite authors shares his thoughts about good writing in Speak what we feel not what we ought to say. He says: “… it takes a certain kind of unguardedness, for one thing, a willingness to run risks, including the risk of making a fool of yourself.”

Am I willing to risk making a fool of myself? Will I take a custard pie for Jesus? Remember, we are instructed to be “fools for Christ” by Paul in 1 Corinthians 1:20-29.

Two questions for us:
1. How am I, or can I be, a clown on my “frontline”?
2. How is, or can, Bessels be a clown?

In A brief theology of sport Lincoln Harvey (Lecturer in Systematic Theology at St Mellitus College, London) contends that the act of creation is God playing. He goes on to link it to us: “Given the central claims of the doctrine of creation, Christians should be the very people who are famous – more than anyone else – for not being serious. That the opposite is the case is a travesty for which the Church bears collective responsibility. All Christians should therefore enjoy being unserious in some way or other… Those who don’t may need to repent.”

Neither he nor I are saying that we shouldn’t take issues of justice and equality seriously. But I am saying that sometimes the Church can take itself a little too seriously, her Ministers can have a little too much self-importance and those who are a part of it can be slightly pious.

If we continue to lean into being clowns for the kingdom at Bessels I think God might have a little chuckle.

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

What journey is God taking us on as a church?

Dear all,

It was a misty morning, as I remember it, over eleven years ago as Jo and I walked up the road on a Sunday morning into Bessels for the first time.

We followed Neil and Sheila Watson into the building. She hasn’t aged a bit and Neil… well, that’s another story.

As soon as my foot touched that wooden step in the entrance I felt it would be a good fit. I don’t know how, but I just did. I then waited several months while the church family came to the same conclusion (well most of them anyway!).

It has been a fun ride so far (we’re not leaving!) and I am chuffed and humbled to be part of a loving church family that has such a long and, mostly, vibrant history.

At our last Elders’ Meeting (we meet once a month to chat and pray about the church, seeking God for the best ways forward) I kicked off a discussion by asking the following question:

What “journey” do we think God is taking us on as a church?

Rick, Stephen, Charlie and I chatted about this for a good fifteen minutes!

We felt the following (the headers are in italics and my thoughts for this blog flow from them)…
1. There has been a softening around the edges: This is a positive. The lines have become blurred concerning those who are “in” or “out”. This reflects the gospel I believe. We’re all “in” with God unless we reject God and decide to be “out”. To lessen potential confusion please let me explain! I believe that God extends his love to us all encouraging us to respond out of free will. We can freely reject God and God will respect and accept this for eternity (with a very heavy heart), or we can freely accept God now and for eternity (which he celebrates wildly). But what about all those who have never really had a chance to clearly respond to God through Jesus? In the Bible in the book of Romans it says that God judges us according to our hearts. I therefore believe that folk who don’t have a chance to respond will be looked upon by our gracious God in accordance to how he thinks they would have responded if they’d heard of Jesus. AND I have to keep reminding myself that God is far more gracious than I am!
2. There is more of an acceptance that we’re all a mess: There is a pressure in our culture to have it all together and this can become a tiring way to live.
3. An emphasis on meeting people where they are: This isn’t dumbing down, but rather connecting with our culture. “Incarnational” is the big word for it – living with and experiencing the lives of those we long to know God.
4. We have Bible teaching which is gospel centred: When we use the term “gospel” (Good News) we definitely are thinking of a focus on what Jesus has done for us as individual human beings in removing the blockage between us and God by his life, death, resurrection and ascension. But it means so much more than this. The gospel is wide; it affects our personal relationship with God for sure but also how we live with our fellow human beings and the world as well.
5. We must make sure people don’t get burnt out: In the busyness of life we don’t want to just keep adding things to people’s to-do list with a layer of Protestant Work Ethic guilt that means they definitely do it. There must be time to stop, play and smell the flowers (if that floats your boat)!
6. We’d love to see “mature” Christians supporting others more and more: This is a work in progress which is often unseen but definitely alive. We’d love to see “whole body” pastoral care where a visit or prayer from Jo Bloggs (he’s a great guy by the way) is just as valid as one from a minister.
7. We offer a smorgasbord: This can sometimes seem messy but, on reflection, fits Jesus’ teaching on the kingdom of God which we are seeking in our Vision as a church. We often don’t know where the kingdom comes from or how it grows according to Matthew 13. Therefore, we should expect a little mess.
8. We are elevating midweek and people’s frontlines, but not at the expense of church services: This was a major point of conversation as it was pointed out very graciously that with our encouragement of PODs some folk have not heard it this way. They have heard me saying: “Come on Sundays if you feel like it.” This is simply not the case. We firmly believe in the importance of worship (from the old English “Worthship”) as a way of giving God the credit he deserves as we connect with God and one another . This includes but isn’t limited to the way most of us think of worship on a Sunday. I remember Stephen Scott once sharing, in an Elders’ meeting about PODs; that his walk with God used to be like this: Come up for air on a Sunday, take a deep breath and then hold it until midweek homegroup. Then, hold his breath again until the next Sunday. I believe that seeing worship as the time when we refill is just one dimension of worship. It should also be when we share stories with one another about what God has been up to and invited us into the rest of the week. We want to lift the rest of the week (helping our neighbour, school pick-up, work, enjoying a meal with friends, playing sport, watching a film, reading a novel, playing the banjo, taming wild ferrets and repairing wheelchairs) up to the same level as Sunday services. By this I mean that we are aware and expectant of God on Tuesday mornings just as we are on Sundays.

One of my favourite novelists is the Catholic writer Walker Percy. His six novels are quite simply stunning and they all have the same aim. To try and answer the question – How do I make sense of my Christian faith on a Wednesday morning. He once said: “The search is what anyone would undertake if he were not sunk in the everydayness of his own life. To become aware of the possibility of the search is to be onto something. Not to be onto something is to be in despair.”

Well… This is the journey that we feel and hope we’re on as a church…

It’s a possibility…

And it doesn’t bring despair…

It brings hope.

Here’s to the next eleven years!

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

A mother in Israel…

‘A mother in Israel.’
I attended Spurgeons’ College with Steve Holmes. He was a poor singer (we stirred up a storm when stood next to each other in chapel when a Wesley tune was banged out!) and an awful footballer. But he was and still is a very gifted theologian. Below is a piece he wrote for Mothering Sunday, which I prefer to call Ladies Sunday:

There are lots of mothers in the Bible.
You may have heard of some of them.
There’s Eve, right at the beginning, who is called ‘the mother of all living’
There’s Sarah, who laughed when God told her she would become a mother at eighty.
There’s Hannah, who prayed for a child and rebuked God’s priest.
There’s Mary, of course, who believed God’s word and became the centre of God’s plan.
Lots of mothers in the Bible – but there’s one mother who, as far as we know, didn’t have any children.
Her name was Deborah – which, for those of us of a certain age, brings to mind a Marc Bolan song, but we’re not going there…
Deborah was a prophet, and she led God’s people for years. She ‘held court,’ the Bible says, under a palm tree. Whenever God’s people had a problem they could not solve, they would come to Deborah, and she would tell them what to do.
She was wise.
She had authority.
She was a real leader.
But – as far as we know – she didn’t have any children, and so she wasn’t a mother yet.

God’s people had one big problem in Deborah’s day.
His name was Sisera.
Sisera was the commander of the army of King Jabin of Canaan, and Sisera had nine hundred armoured chariots, and so no-one could fight against Sisera.
And for twenty years – twenty years – that’s only one year less than the age of lots of your mothers – for twenty years Sisera and his chariots had oppressed and abused God’s people.
But God had had enough. God needed someone to be a great leader; God needed someone ready to fight; God needed someone brave enough and strong enough to take on Sisera and all his armoured chariots
You might have looked for a king. Or a knight. Or a general.
Or perhaps a superhero like Batman or Captain America (or even Emmet the lego-man – but we’re not going there…)
God looked for a mother.
‘Deborah!’ God said. ‘What do mothers do?’
And Deborah, being wise, and knowing God well, said ‘mothers love and protect their children, Lord, and show them the right way to live.’
And God said ‘You’ve loved my people for years, Deborah, and you’ve showed them the right way to live for years. Now I need you to protect them too.’
So Deborah looked around. Deborah knew all God’s people – she’d been their leader for years – and she called one of them who she knew could do it to put an army together. (His name was Barak, which might sound like a politician you’ve heard of, but we’re not going there either …) ‘God wants to save his people from Sisera, Barak, and you’re the one he’s going to use – get an army together and fight!’
But Barak was scared. He wanted his mummy. ‘I’ll only go if you come with me,’ he said to Deborah.
So Barak and Deborah went, and they fought Sisera and his army, and all his chariots. And they won, because God was with them.
And Deborah and Barak sang a song to celebrate their victory – a duet like they sing in the Battle rounds on The Voice – but we’re definitely not going there…
Their song was a bit like the psalms; it was a song about how God had helped and saved their people. And in that song – it’s in Judges, chapter 5 and verse 7 if you want to look it up, Deborah sang that all God’s people were too scared to fight ‘until I, Deborah, arose, until I arose, a mother in Israel’.
So Deborah, although as far as we know she didn’t have any children, was a mother after all, or so the Bible tells us. She was a mother because God called her to love and to protect God’s people, and to show them the right way to live.

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.


Things Christians should stop saying…

Dear all,

I found this link really helpful and challenging.

I don’t know about you but I sometimes struggle to understand the “mechanics” of prayer, hearing from God and sensing God’s presence (having said that I am more comfortable with thinking I have heard God speak to me as I believe God speaks to us often through our imaginations, what we see, the things we experience, etc.).

Anyway, I’ll hold back from making this into an article!

Please read the following link and let me know what you think…

“Prayer works and 2 other things Christians should stop saying now”

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

Consumer or Kingdom Christianity…

As I look at my own life I think my faith fluctuates between Consumer Christianity and Kingdom Christianity. What do I mean by these terms?

Consumer Christianity:

In 2005 Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist wrote Soul searching: The religious and spiritual lives of American teenagers. In this book they researched the lives of three-thousand Christian teenagers and found that they were guided by Moralistic Therapeutic Deism (Deism is an 18th century idea of a distant God who is selectively available to take care of my needs). The concept can be summarised as follows:

  1. A god exists who created and ordered the world and watches over human life on earth.
  2. God wants people to be good, nice, and fair to each other, as taught in the Bible and by most world religions.
  3. The central goal of life is to be happy and to feel good about oneself.
  4. God does not need to be particularly involved in one’s life except when God is needed to resolve a problem.
  5. Good people go to heaven when they die.

I absolutely say “yes” to numbers one and two. But the next three, in my opinion, simply aren’t Christian beliefs. You see, sometimes we are called to sacrifice and putting others first which can result in me not always feeling happy or good about myself. Also, God wants to be involved in every details and area of our lives. And we know that it isn’t being good (and which one of us judges who is and isn’t good?) that gets us to heaven – it is Jesus; not Church, helping the elderly cross the road, paying my taxes, giving to charity, etc.. Kenda Creasy Dean writes in Almost Christian: What the Faith of Our Teenagers is Telling the American Church: “The problem does not seem to be that churches are teaching young people badly, but that we are doing an exceedingly good job of teaching youth what we really believe, namely, that Christianity is not a big deal, that God requires little, and the church is a helpful social institution filled with nice people…”

This kind of thinking can easily lead us towards Consumer Christianity: “What is in it for me?” is our guiding question if the goal of life is for me to be happy and feel good about myself.

Simply put: This kind of church is unattractive to the world in which it is placed because it is no different to that world. If people come searching in the Church or with Christians they are looking for something different!

Kingdom Christianity:

A few weeks ago I sat in a coffee shop and though: What could a kingdom seeking church look like? Here are forty-one points (which became a sermon) that I jotted down …

1. Blurring: Where did Jesus’ “group” begin and end? He seemed to have a “tight centre” but blurred edges as to who did and didn’t belong.
2. Challenging: Jesus’ teaching is challenging – no getting around it! Church should challenge, as well as comfort, us.
3. Sending: Church literally means “sent ones” in Greek. In the Bible the word “sent” is used over six hundred and fifty times. Mostly it is about God doing the sending. This is a Trinitarian activity: The Father sends the Son who sends the Holy Spirit who sends us.
4. Loving: We do well to remember to love each other but above all that we must love God first. Do I really love God? Really…
5. Disturbing: Russell Rook writes: “The kingdom, by its very nature, never quite fits into our broken world. It is there to disturb us; to point out that it wasn’t meant to be this way.” I wonder if this is a reason why Jesus often went to the margins of society – to highlight them to us and remind us that they weren’t what God intended?
6. Giving: Church must be “other” focussed.
7. Captivating: Russell Rook writes: “Why is it that the language of the church has often become so static, so constrictive, so predictable, so irrelevant to our world, so, well, boring?” Church should take people’s breath away as they look at it.
8. Hair-raising: At Chessington World of Adventure I stand and hold the coats. Those rides are out of my comfort zone. Church should be like that at times. Are we allowed to stand at the side and hold the coats?
9. Looking: Are we taking note of the world in which we live?
10. Listening: My role as Club Chaplain at Tonbridge Angels is firstly to listen. Sometimes advice never trips off my tongue. A kingdom seeking church will be one that listens.
11. Blowing: Jesus and the religious leader Nicodemus had a chat. Nicodemus knew the scriptures and I’m confident was a good man. But Jesus said he needed more than intellectual brilliance. He also needed to be able to respond to the Holy Spirit who blows like the wind. We live in a church culture (in our area) that prizes intellectualism. Whilst there is certainly a place for this we’d do well to uphold the unpredictable movements of the Holy Spirit.
12. Accommodating: Do we allow people to be with us without making them like us?
13. Praying: I long to move beyond “prayer meetings” to a more organic view of prayer where it becomes part of the rhythm of our church. Where we need to pray when we catch up to thank God for what he is doing and seek him for what is needed.
14. Celebrating: Let’s shed our inhibitions about encouraging one another about what God is doing in our midst. We meet together to spur one another on in the faith as the writer to the Hebrews told us.
15. Fascinating: People should stop and stare at the art work that is church; not necessarily understanding it all, but becoming entranced by it.
16. Liberating: Russell Rook challenges us: “Our news is often bad, the price of the kingdom is overplayed, and the joy hardly mentioned.”
17. Worshipping: Our “right” is service and submission to the King. Service and submission are worship, which we all know includes but is far wider than Sunday services.
18. Changing: “The cross stands while the world revolves” is the old saying. Therefore, we can change the way we do things to respond to the world in which we live so long as we present the unchanging Jesus of the cross.
19. Dying: Church should be a place where death is accepted as part of life. This doesn’t mean we aren’t saddened and devastated by it, but we do know there is something beyond it. And this comforts us as a people.
20. Pondering: A kingdom seeking church should be reflective. There need be no guilt about sometimes stopping things for a season in order to make space to think and pray.
21. Daring: Speaking personally, Rick McKinley says: “Do we actually want the revolution of Jesus to break into our life and community? Frankly, we were worried about what we might lose.” “He who dares wins Rodney!” Not always the case, but we get what Del Boy is saying.
22. Caring: As humans we might not love everyone who crosses our paths but this doesn’t prevent us caring for them.
23. Unassuming: Many years ago shark-killer Ben Cropp was offered $1 million ($10 million nowadays) to fight a Great White Shark live on television for an hour. His conscience got the better of him and he pulled out pretending he had an ear infection. Our world is grabbed by the large, loud and ludicrous. Church often does small things and leaves the growth to God.
24. Amusing: We are not a GAP advert where everybody is physically and mentally perfect. We don’t match one another and live in perfect harmony. In fact, we’re an odd bunch that would never be together except for Jesus!
25. Maturing: None of us have arrived, know it all or have experienced everything. There’s always room for growth. Also, being mature isn’t necessarily linked with our age!
26. Enabling: A kingdom seeking church will de-clutter its “Christianity” of cultural baggage and accessories. It will do away with unnecessary maintenance and meetings.
27. Engaging: It will work with, not just for, other people.
28. Growing: Absolutely! But how do you measure it?
29. Living: This kind of church will take time to enjoy life. Productivity isn’t always productive. Enjoy the view, smell the flowers and pet the dog (so long as it doesn’t bite).
30. Hurting: Pope Francis said: “I prefer a church which is bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security.” We need to see the hurt of others and allow it to hurt us and, if appropriate change our actions.
31. Uniting: Imagine running away with the teachers’ sheet music squabbling over every note and missing his symphony? We lay aside our small differences to gaze upon the king. We major on the majors and minor on the minors. Sadly, churches often major on minor issues and minor on the major issues of our faith.
32. Shrinking: Do small things with great love.
33. Dwelling: Life is local. This might be where you live, work or hang out – wherever your frontline is. I read of a challenge to get to know, love and serve the neighbours six doors either side of you. Now that’s a challenge for me!
34. Bearing: We will carry one another’s burdens; which means that we can’t hide them from each other either.
35. Partying: From the outside looking in we will be seen as a fun group of people to be with.
36. Following: In the Gospels Jesus always called people to follow him and this led to worshipping him. Churches often get it the other way around and worship in the hope that they will follow. When we follow Jesus on our frontline and see him in action we are then moved to worship him.
37. Talking: We will be happy to talk about Jesus and our kingdom-seeking church.
38. Storytelling: Somebody once said that stories are “data with soul”. As stories (narratives, metaphors, parables and images) were the dominant form of communication in the New Testament they will be for us when we share Jesus in our cultures.
39. Risking: We will refuse to play it safe for fear that we might fail. To be sure we will be wise and prudent but not just to keep us closeted from failing.
40. Understanding: We will try to understand another’s perspective. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with it.
41. Embracing: I can’t embrace the kingdom if my arms are full of me.

This looks like Kingdom Christianity to me. This looks attractive if you’re tired of some aspects of the world we live in.

Now I’m sure you could add to this list and that was part of the “wake-up” point for me in this process. There isn’t an exhaustive list, a “we’ve made it” moment, when it comes to what a kingdom seeking church looks like.

Rick McKinley says that the kingdom of God is a “beautiful mess”. It’s the kind of mess/mystery I’m sure we all want to be a part of. And the Good News as Rick Warren reminds us is: “God invites you to participate in the greatest, largest, most diverse, and most significant cause in history – his kingdom.”

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

A Life Can Only Be Thrown Away Once

Dear all,

I love Samurai films. I was grabbed the first time I watched The Seven Samurai (still not surpassed in my opinion). And now that I have a Region 1 dvd player it has opened me up to a world of previously unwatchable films of the genre!

A few nights back I was watching one such film – The Great Killing. It is about a group of rogue Samurai and others who are fighting against an unjust authority and organize a revolt. So many of the characters give up s much for the big dream of saving Japan from corrupt leadership.

January. The start of a New Year. Resolutions! This is the time when many of us give up things; well for a week at least…

I never have for a couple of reasons:

  1. Jesus has set me free, so why put extra burdens on myself – please feel free to disagree with me.
  2. Why choose this one date to make these decisions? I feel a healthy evaluation of my life more regularly (monthly or fortnightly) will make desired changes more achievable.

Please don’t read these two reasons as me saying I have it all together!

One line that did grab me in the film was when the grieving Samurai who’d seen his wife of three months slain by corrupt soldiers, spoke to the gambling lazy Samurai who was drifting nowhere about why he had decided to join the rogue group. He said: “A life can only be thrown away once.”

This can be read negatively, as in, “don’t throw your life away and waste it!”

Or it could be read as a positive challenge.
We’re all “throwing our lives away”,
Each life diminishes by one day as the sun goes down.
None of us are indestructible.
Each morning we have a day less left to live.
Life can only be lived one day at a time.
So where are you throwing each day of your life?
Where am I “throwing” today?

Yours because of Jesus – Neil.

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